“Would you like to take my marriage test?” That was a question that caught some unsuspecting males off guard a couple weekends ago at the annual walk-a-mile. In the midst of questions like “Where are you from?” and “What program are you in?” I had compiled an intense set of questions that formed into something I like to call ‘The Marriage Test.’ Now this test is not as frightening as it may sound. I was not interested in finding my soul mate or a suitable husband. I made sure to clarify before each testing session that the test was not in regards to a relationship between my walking partner and myself. Rather, it was to find out what my walk-a-mile partner thought about marriage, relationships, and life in general. Once I clarified that I wasn’t looking for a hook-up, I began my test. Since the duration of the survey was unpredictable based on the spontaneity of the walk-a-mile, I usually began with a more intense question so I could get straight to business. That question was usually something along the lines of, “What are your religious views?” This was my personal favourite question because I believe that it gets at the essence of who an individual is as a human being. What someone believes in religiously covers a lot of ground about a person from their lifestyle choices to the way they carry themselves.
If my partner or myself had not been moved by the end of that question, I would move on to my next set of questions which I have labeled as ‘The Man Factor Questions.’ Here, I would ask questions that had to do with where my walk-a-mile partner planned on getting settled in the future, what he would like his family to be like, how many children he wanted, what his career would be, etc. These questions gave me insight into what kind of family man my interviewee was. Generally, the answers were simple. Most of the guys just wanted a conventional family in more of a rural area.
After ‘The Man Factor Questions’ I would move onto ‘The Woah-Man (as in woman) Factor Questions.’ These questions focused on what my walking partner looked for in a female, what qualities were important, and whether or not they believed in the ‘the one.’ I liked these questions and the answers were pretty interesting. I was very amused with one of my interviewees answers when he said, “Beauty fades, but dumb is forever,” as he talked about hoping to find an intelligent girl to settle down with one day.
Overall, this test gave for some very interesting conversations. I got to know my buddies more than I would of if I simply asked the typical, awkward, get-to-know-you questions. It was a pretty good tool to have in my pocket and I plan on pulling out the old Marriage Test when I meet someone new. I suggest you try it. Who knows, you may just find your soul mate.
Here I have broken the test up into their three appropriate sections with some questions you can ask to the next person you give The Marriage Test to! You don’t have to strictly stick to these questions. Ask the questions that your heart desires to know the answers to. This is just an outline of questions that got my conversations going. You’ll find that as you go along you’ll think of new interesting questions.
| The Big One | What are your religious views? What does religion mean to you? |
| The Man Factor Questions | Where do you want to live when you grow up? A rural area? An urban area? How many children do you want? Do you want your children to call you Dad, Daddy, or Pops? What are your career goals? Do you want a big house or a small house? |
| The Whoa-Man (as in woman) Factor Questions | What qualities do you look for in a wife? Do you believe in love at first sight? Do you believe in the one? Do you like older or younger women? What do you think is the most attractive characteristic about a woman? |
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